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Balancing being on the journey and preexisting health problems.

July 22, 2010 by  
Filed under Transformation

“Hello I am a 56 year old transgendered female stuck in a male body. I have been trying to deny my true self for too long. I recently was diagnosed with GID. They recommend I begin transition ASAP. I have many medical issues and the doctors worry about hormone treatment. I wonder if your program might be a more prudent choice? I have high blood pressure, sleep apnea, severe allergies, diabetes, type II. Please advise me if your program will help?

Michelle”

Obviously you have a complicated case with multiple parts of your endocrine system failing. Diabetes, hypoglycemia, probably: adrenal-pituitary communication failure, testosterone deficiency, thyroid dysfunction. GID and your health problems in my opinion are in conflict with each other, as the treatment to be female and the health issues are opposed.

We are not medical doctors and can not give you medical advice. I can say feminizing your body will risk exacerbating your pre-existing conditions. I don’t think it matters if you use Transfemme or another treatment, either way there are risks; using our product is probably the lesser of the evils but still a risk.

The question is: how much suffering do you go through being trapped as a male and will taking steps to be female give you enough of a mental health benefit to make the benefits outweigh the risks? These are the kinds of decisions only you and your doctors can make.

I would ask myself how happy or unhappy am I the way I am and do I want to spend my remaining years feminizing or stuck as a male? If the feminizing sped up your demise, is that ok if….. you get to feel better as a female or becoming a female? Is it ok if you are not perfectly female, just in transition? Will it satisfy you to be on the journey rather than at the destination? You have to figure out where the balance is for you? A lot of our customers feel satisfied to be on the journey and to wear female clothes and see female changes happening, even though they are not perfectly female looking in all ways yet.

I think the key to doing this is to feel happy with oneself once you make a decision and enjoy the journey. If you can’t be happy on the journey and will only feel happy being 100% female then you need more therapy because the fact is you were born in a male body and that is life. You have to accept yourself and the facts the way they are and embrace your decision and your process joyfully. If you can have a good time and enjoy your life while transitioning, (which is a lot of work) then it would be worth while to find a doctor who can help you with the health issues while transitioning.

I feel being at peace with who you are on the inside is important. Accepting that the outside is what it is and you will do what you can do to change it, but at the same time being accepting and gentle with yourself is a key. We all have limited time here on earth, endeavor to have as many happy days as you can and love yourself as you are, a male trapped in a female body. The male body is just the outside covering who you really are.

There are a lot of transgendered people and support groups were you can meet others like you.  We also have a forum where you can meet other T girls and make some friends to share your feelings and experiences with. The good news is we hear from a lot of our T girls and they are happy transitioning, I hope you can feel the same.

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