Message Forum | Hi,i'm tabitha

Karen K said:

Hilary,

Have you told your family that your Trangendered? If they can handle that, I'm sure they can handle the lesbian thing.

What needs to be pointed out here, is that, being TG is not about sex. That is you, or I for that matter, are not becoming female so we can have sex with men. Being TG is about gender. Think of it as being comfortable with the skin your in. Upto this point I am disgusted with this  hairy, masculine form. In my minds eye, I should be softer, thinner, rounder ( in places). Okay, maybe not cute, as I am 5'11.5″, but certainly attractive to men and women.

So Hilary, I think you should take as much time as you need before spilling the beans, so to speak. As for me, I'm going to visit my momma next weekend. She doesn't know it, but I've got something important to tell her.

Karen

I'm just so tired of lying to both friends and family. I'm kind of short but average height for a woman and I look very young for my age. I'm 3 1/2″ shorter than you and I ware size 10m womens shoe I think all they see is this 5'8″ Navy Seal but that life is behind me since 1992. But, a few of my good friends know like my Wiccan sister no she is not my real sister but someone I wish and claim as a sister all my family are deceased. I have aunts uncles and cousins but no dad mom, or siblings. Oh my Goddess I shave my body hair off all the time. Your lucky to have a mother I lost mine when I was 18 and in bootcamp. I'm 39 but look some what in my mid to late 20's. I'm about to tell my aunt by sending her a letter through snail mail as an ice breaker then I'll have to say something "right?" I don't think then would be the best time bring up being a lesbian after transitioning or it might be the best time. I see it as sex I see as my gender. I just happen to be a trans woman that loves women but I've heard it can change after post op. I don't care as long as I'm female I'll be very happy with what ever happens.

Karen K said:

Tabitha,

It is difficult to tell your wife these things. I did almost two years. I cried heavily and while she did say she was sorry that I had suffered with this for so long and she comforted me at the time, she has made no effort to support me.

And so I purge my feelings and my "lady" clothes. But now, it is about me! I'm not happy being in this hairy male body. So I'm going to change it.

A doctors diagonsis will just be confirming what you alredy know to be true. Go if you need this to help with telling your wife.

I'm like Hilary, I love women and if my spouse doesn't want me then I will find one who does.

They are called lesbians and yes when I transition I will identify as a lesbian. May with another trans women or maybe with a genetic female it's where ever my heart leads me to be. But, how on earth will I ever tell my family members that I'm lesbian. I have one blessing I'm not married or have kids. I've had girlfriends before but nothings ever when further than that.

nick2nikki said:

Hilary Fox said:

tabitha

I always dream about being a woman. I think all the time nature make a mistake putting a woman into a males body. But unlike you I love women but I want to be with women even after I transition. Oh gasp how will I tell my family I'm a tg lesbian. Oh wait I don't care if they know I'm just tired of living a lie. It's me thing I'm so selfish but if I don't do it for myself who will. Even friends that know I'm tg ask me why after I transition why I still want to date women it's just part of who I am.

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Growing up and feeling more and more out of place,I know how you feel.But its your life,so why not live it the way it makes YOU happy.Yes,thinking in terms of "yourself" does sound seelfish,but when it comes to your own life,it is your history book,not theirs.

Thanks Nikki I was in the navy from 90-92 trying to shake the feels I was having but you who you are just so other feel happy or else you'll just end up unhappy and sad. I feel very of who I am now and who I will become. People say look around 24-28 even though I'm 39 no wrinkles yet and I'm only 5'8″ and ware a size 11 womens shoe.  

Hello Tabitha,   I know exactly how you feal. I am currently male, but I want to be a Woman. Telling someone is not easy. I would love to have big "real" breasts, not fake, plastic ones.

If you really want to be a Woman, then why don't you tell your wife, I'm sure she will understand.

I want to be a Woman myself, but it just isn't easy to tell someone.

Tabitha hopefully you and I will be the Women we should some day.

Samantha