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Hello, Caytlin:

Well going out as a transgender for the first time is always embarrassing, I know.  Many people  do not tolerate any variations from the norm, as they regard heterosexuality.  I am also a transgender person, M2F  my name is Alexandra. While, still at college, I could rely on support, provided by our University's Gender and  Sexuality Center. Now, when I am an alumna, I am still welcome at Center's events. Well, I  dreamed, and still dream of becoming a   complete female, though all related expenses( work with gender therapist,  being on hormones, then FFS, and then, finally, SRS, not  mentioning electrolysis  or laser hair removal)  taken together may hit or even exceed $100K. I wish I had those $100K or more so I could fearlessly proceed in this direction toward becoming a female I want to be. Even now,  I gladly use female clothes,  but not for crossdressing purposes  or receiving some sexual gratification, not at all, I just believe those clothes I have to wear,  as i am a girl, so they belong to me. As I enjoy using makeup, feminine fragrances, female jewelry, etc, all I wear because I believe they belong to me by the right of being a girl. Certainly, not all girl  asre the same, some girls barely use any makeup, some  wear few pieces of jewelry, while others put on as many pieces  of jewelry as they can (pretty much asthey may look like a s decorated Christmas tree).  Well, I also love jewelry, makeup, perfumes, etc.,  but I try not to to go too far with those .  While not being born a biological female, I have to learn everything female learns throughout her lifespan. Unlike a biological female,  transgender people who are serious about their transitions, should learn all that feminine stuff much faster in  shorter periods of time in order to "pass" as a woman, being as inconspicious as possible, so they would not be laughed at or bgeing ridiculed. As for me, when I wear woman's clothes, wear makeup, jewelry, I try not to pay much attention to reaction of people around me, by  pretending  reading a book and don't look around much.

Here is pretty much about my story. Thanks for reading it.

Best,

Alexandra

Hi Caytlin,

My name will soon be Karen(not soon enough though). Your story sounds like mine, although, I'm 20 years older. And I joined the navy after college. Other than that we could be identical twins. I have had several 'false' starts to this transformation. The last ended when I told my wife. She was sympathetic but not suppotive. SHortly after that my boss found some things on my work computer and confronted me. This was all too much at the time, almost two years ago now. As you know, this just doesn't go away. And now I'm determined to see it through!

I'm making an appointment with my gender counceler, as soon as I get of this computer. I've already ordered TF and look for it to arrive any day now. My wife will remain in the dark for the time being as well as my boss and coworkers. At least until the changes can no longer be hidden, at which time I will begin living full time as I should have done long ago.

You are indeed lucky to have the woman you do. I wish Gina could be more like her. My fear is that once she realizes I am pursuing this she may divorce me.

I do however have my older sister to confide in. She has been very understanding. And when I call her on the phone or she calls me, she uses my chose female name!

Well, Caytlin, keep me posted on you progress.

Love and support from your sister.

Karen