Nikki,
Welcome to the TF forum. I am also still a male, unfortunatly. However I started TF on May 13th. I have high hopess.
As for your concern on passing, I, too, have these concern. If you realize, as I have, you don't have to go "jump into a dress" right away. You and I have time to do some thing which will help down the road when we are ready to face the public as our true selves. See my post, "I Have a Plan" on the TG/TF Support thread.
For instance: Start growing out your hair. Then find a styllist you like and have her suggest a style that complements your face.
Also, laser off you facial hair. This will make you look younger and provide a smooth canvass when you're ready for make-up lessons.
I agree with you on the voice feminization. Surgery is expense and may not give you the results you hope for. Today, I ordered an audion course, "Fundamental of your feminine Voice". I believe this is a good choice for me, I let everyone know my progress. There are several other courses out there and nothing beats one-on-one training, if you can afford it.
I hope this helps you, Nikki. And please keep us posted on your progress. All my best,
Karen
I hop